Wednesday, March 17, 2010

help him tick.

"When you marry someone, you are entrusted with the heart of another human being. Whatever else your life's great mission will entail, loving and defending this heart next to you is part of your great quest." -John Eldridge
"I speak from personal experience when I say that fighting for our spouse, even when they are imperfect, is eternally more rewarding than fighting against them and wishing they were less imperfect." -Jennifer McKinney, of MckMama fame.
Amen, sister.  But OH how I need to work on this. 

I sing a lot, giggle a lot, get super excited about really small things, clap, cheer, sometimes cry during American Idol, and want JD's opinion about/on everything.  These are things that my husband loves about me.  I know that because a) he tells me and b) he gives me this little smile that says "you're nuts.  But I really like it."  However, when he has 14 hours of studying per day and immense pressure weighing down on him constantly-it gets tough.  He's so patient.  But sometimes I can get really annoying.  And I can tell.  I should just stop, go occupy myself, and let him be.  Instead, I will say things like "JD, are you annoyed with me, what's wrong, are you okay? did I do something?"

For future law school/med school/any wives/fiances/girlfriends-here's my little tid bit:  Try letting it go.  If he's upset or hurt he will come to you (at least I hope so...and if he doesn't that's an other issue) 

I want to help him tick instead of ticking him off.


  1. Amen to YOU, sister. You've figured this out far earlier than this 3L wife did! :)

  2. I know exactly what you're talking about- totally something I need to work on too. It's so against my nature to just let it go and give him space when I'm worried I did something to annoy him.